Your child’s safety and well-being is the most important thing in everything they do, know when you need to step in to protect them and be their voice. Chalese also answers a question about the difference between “casting” and an “audition” – you need to what they mean!
My daughter is working on a movie with a well known actor who did something inappropriate to her. I am worried about saying anything – could she get fired from the movie if I do say anything? Margaret L., Albuquerque, NM
As with all my answers, my response is based only on my personal experience and opinion and since this is an extremely sensitive issue I would encourage you to seek additional council. I would also like to add that situations like these, although they do happen, are very rare and must be handled both delicately and definitively. As a mother myself, my stance is that it is never okay for anyone to do anything inappropriate to any child, ever! The first thing I would do would be to make sure I was not overreacting to the situation and that I was completely certain of what took place. It will be important to keep a cool head and avoid jumping to conclusions as I assess if there is a possibility that this was a misunderstanding or somehow not what it seems. If I were to determine that this is indeed a situation that calls for action, I would remain professional, avoid making a scene, and handle the problem immediately. I would start by going to the producer or someone in power with whom I felt safe. Obviously the severity of the situation would dictate the level of my determination to have it corrected in the manner appropriate to the offense. On a SAG movie, if the situation is not handled appropriately, or if I were dismissed or disrespected for my concern, I would call SAG immediately and ask them to get involved. Their job is to protect the actors and they even go so far as to provide a 24/7 service for this kind of problem. They take it very seriously, as they should.
However you decide to handle it, not doing anything out of fear of her losing the job will only serve to harm you both in the end. The experience will not be an accomplishment in your eyes, but a failure. All you and your daughter will think about when you watch that movie, or participate in anything else that happens associated with that movie, will be that incident and how you were too weak to stand up for yourself and your daughter. No job is worth the risk of your child suffering psychological or physical repercussions.
What is the difference between a ‘casting’ and an ‘audition’? – Travis K., Dallas, TX
Casting is the entire process of selecting the actors for a movie. An audition is specific to the individual actor and is the process you go through to get the part. It is you performing your interpretation of the role and often being directed or given adjustments by the casting director or director. An audition is also sometimes referred to as a reading or a meeting. I have a friend who books work all the time that prefers to call them meetings, because it more clearly expresses the truth that both parties, (the actor and the casting personnel,) are on an even playing field as professionals coming together to determine if the job is the right fit for both sides. This mental adjustment helps you claim your power by eliminating the common misconception that the all powerful casting personnel will “pick” an actor based on whim or fancy.
Chalese is the founder of the non profit organization, Rainy Days Foundation, which helps individuals heal after loss. She is a motivational speaker, children’s book author, Liberation Guide, as well as a program director in leadership.Her story comes from a tragic accident in which resulted in the loss of her 4 year old son. She tells about her journey of healing and how she found the strength to carry on. She built her wings and now is helping others to build theirs. She began writing The Adventures of Bug children’s book series in hopes that her son’s thrill of adventure will live on. Chalese is also blessed with two more beautiful children that keep her on her toes and remind her of what is truly important in life. In her free time she enjoys singing in a band, kickboxing, hiking and spending time with her friends. Her infectious laugh, passion for life and ambitious “no fear” attitude build strong and lasting relationships, inspiring those who come into her life. To purchase one of her books, please visit: The Adventures of Bug Books
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Last modified: August 13, 2017